Becoming your own champion

“You are kind. You are sweet. You are loving and lovable. You are adorable. You are smart. You are enough. You matter. You are worthy. I LOVE YOU.”

 ~ Gail Kauranen Jones

I am so excited to share major news with you.

Next month I am going to be on national TV sharing my message of worthiness (details to follow in future blogs as the show date gets closer).

Before I become visible and seen by millions, I am pausing and spending time alone to create safety within; speaking the loving words above to the younger version of myself, who was not championed as a child when she needed to be.

In fact, that little girl was terrified to bring too much attention to herself, to shine her light, having felt years of shame as a daughter of a schizophrenic mom. “The little girl” thought it was better to stay quiet, behind-the-scenes, so no one would know of her feeling “less than” coming from an imperfect family.

Well, in December, a lot of people are going to know of my upbringing, as it is part of my story of reclaiming my light and my own worthiness.

I feel the joy and triumph of this teaching moment I have prepared a lifetime to deliver.

To stand out, no matter how old one is, takes courage. That courage can be strengthened if one first nurtures and heals their wounded or neglected parts. Creating an inner sanctuary of self-love and safety—independent of what others think of, or project onto us—helps a lot in shining our light in new ways.

Hence, the significance of this career milestone goes far beyond the increased visibility I will achieve for my 20-year coaching practice.   It entails honoring an extensive, emotional healing process of getting grounded within, to ready myself to live a life of greater well-being, resiliency, service and presence–much like the one in which I guide my clients to embrace.

MY AUTHENTIC SELF

As I have shared in the past, when I was a little girl, I loved school and learning, but most of all, I loved teaching. I would dash home from school and rush to my bedroom to teach my make-believe students. My brother would sometimes laugh as he heard me talking to my “class.”

In later years, when I went to college and wanted to be a teacher, I was told, “There’s no money in teaching.” So, I became a journalist (not the most lucrative field starting out either) and later a successful PR executive before embarking on my coaching career.

I love coaching. It is a beautiful combination of journalism and teaching—pulling together the pieces of clients’ stories and then guiding them to create new, more empowering outcomes than the limited versions of the past.

And now, I get to use my own story of growing up and the reinvention as an example, as the teacher I always wanted to be–claiming my worthiness to deliver the messages I was divinely guided to share.

RISING UP

 In elevating to new levels of success, I give voice to empowering, affirmative messages gleaned from my private victories. Here is what the grown-up version of myself now listens to:

  • Staying small no longer serves you. You didn’t gain hard-earned wisdom, by moving through years of adversity, to keep it to yourself. You are part of a bigger plan to spread light, love and hope. Welcome the opportunity to be a vessel of goodwill.
  • Be great, honor your courage, and know you are worthy to be seen, heard, valued and acknowledged.
  • You are allowed to be happy, delighted, and celebrated.

I also listen to these uplifting songs: “Rise” by Katy Perry and “Let it go” (from the Disney movie, Frozen).

Lines from “Go the Distance” by Michael Bolton encourage me and feel particularly appropriate for my TV debut:

 “I know every mile, will be WORTH my wait.

When I go the distance, I’ll be right where I belong…”

 

“But to look beyond the glory is the hardest part

For a hero’s strength is measured by his heart.” 

Excited to shine in bigger and brighter ways…from the heart,

Gail

 PS– I’ll be sharing some fun, behind-the-scenes photographs of getting ready for TV in a future blog.

HOLIDAY SPECIAL: Sign up for a six-session, customized coaching package by November 29 and receive a 10 percent discount. Email gailjones@claimyourworthiness.com to learn more.

WHAT’S NEW: See my latest media interviews about claiming your worthiness on my Press Page.

The above photo of me as a little girl is one of the few my mom had saved. Seeing how cute I was dressed made me realize, despite her serious mental health challenges, she tried to be the best mom she could be. I think many of us mothers can relate to that—we do our best, and have to forgive ourselves for our imperfections. There is no “perfect mom” manual.

 Ironically, my mom was voted most likely to succeed and earned a scholarship to college to become a teacher. I feel her presence now more than ever, with love and compassion that she did not get to live her dream, nor see mine come alive in new ways.

 

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  • Linda says:

    Congratulations, Gail! Your long, committed journey to make a difference in the world in a big way is here and I’m so very happy for you.
    I know you will knock it out of the ballpark as share your message with all who are fortunate enough to hear it!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Linda: As someone who has witnessed that long, committed journey, I am grateful for your public acknowledgment of my work. You have always been an amazing champion…with love and gratitude, Gail

  • Doug Campbell says:

    Gail,

    Such a powerful and moving story!

    It takes great courage to publicly share your story as you have!

    It reminds be of this passage in the Bible,

    Matthew 5: 14-16
    14 You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

    You are setting an example for the rest of us to follow!

    Kudos to you! I know your story will be well received, and viewed as a motivational example for the rest of us to follow!

    Thank you for shining your light !

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Doug: I vacillated on sharing, but then that inner nudge came forth and said “RISK IT.” Be the model. Show how it’s done. The major block to success is often the scared child within, who needs to be made to feel safe first before shining in bigger ways. It’s all subconscious, which as you and many of my clients know, is where I go to guide clients in creating shifts. Clients have more rapid breakthroughs when they commit to doing this piece. Today is a celebration of my own courage to do “the work” and bring a much needed message to the world. I appreciate your well wishes on my TV debut. I was deeply touched by the Bible passages you shared…and yes, I do give glory to God, who helped prepare me to share and be an example. Blessings, Gail

  • demi stevens says:

    Congrats, Gail! This is super exciting news for you, and all those who really need the message you have to share!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Demi: As my book editor, you know what it takes to champion to others to success. You do it so well. I appreciate your good wishes on becoming more visible. Blessings, Gail

  • Bev Wax says:

    Congrats!!! You deserve much success! You are very brave to tell your own life story. You are a wonderful coach and btw, that picture of you as a little girl is wonderful too!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Bev: I appreciate your valuing my courage…it’s important for me to “walk the talk,” doing the same brave work through which I guide my clients. Thanks for valuing me as your coach–and enjoying the picture of me as a little girl. Taking her out for a walk now to celebrate her–and how far she’s come! Blessings, Gail

  • Judith Miller says:

    Congrats Gail. Wishing you every good thing in your expansion. May you be a blessing to many as you have been an example to all.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Appreciate your good wishes in this major leap, Judy. Thanks, too, for valuing my intuitively choosing to use my life challenges as an example to others, to help them know they can walk through “blocks” to new levels, expressing their innate wholeness. Blessings, Gail

  • WOW Gail – SO moving and powerful. I’ve watched your journey for a while now and it’s unbelievable how you are showing up and inspiring others and adding value to so many in spite of and BECAUSE of all you’ve been through. Thank you for being brave enough to share. God has given you a story that other people need to hear and an ability to speak into the lives of others on such a grander scale now than ever before!! I never ever imagined when I met you in the post office years ago that all this would transpire. I am so proud of you and you’re still as beautiful as ever even after all these years!! Thank you for sharing that precious photo.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lisa: Yes, you have witnessed many parts of what has been an arduous journey, and always, always, always believed in me during my darkest moments when others did not. I’ll never forget you hosting my guided meditation groups in Arizona at your clubhouse, bringing together others committed to personal growth and development as I introduced some leading-edge concepts based on neuroscience that were unfamiliar to many. We were all pioneers back then. In watching you grow your own health and wellness business, I have seen you consistently model being a loving champion for many others. You have supported SO MANY women to new levels of success. I am most touched you enjoyed the picture of me as a little girl…and how she’s grown into a mature woman over the years. To standing in the light, honoring the worthiness message God guided me to deliver. With love and gratitude, Gail

  • Cynde Denson says:

    Gail, Congratulations, National T.V. – AWESOME! That is such a great accomplishment and your heartfelt journey is inspiring me in mine as I move towards new horizon, even in this new decade of my life. I am so proud of you and the inspiration you are. You have worked so hard and now it will be paying off for you and those you help. All I can say is woo-hoo!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Cynde: I appreciate your big WOO-HOO! It took me decades to figure out the inner blocks, despite all my external efforts to change the story. My 8-year deep dive post cancer into reclaiming my worthiness to LIVE helped me consolidate all I learned into 6-, 12- and 18-session coaching packages to help others accelerate their healing to live their best lives NOW! Congrats on your own bold moves forward in your new horizon. I know your light will shine bigger and more brightly too–the world needs your gifts. Blessings, Gail

  • What an adorable little girl you were. And how fun that her dream of teaching is coming true.
    What might the world be like if we all heard these words as children: “You are kind. You are sweet. You are loving and lovable. You are adorable. You are smart. You are enough. You matter. You are worthy. I LOVE YOU.” And how wonderful that we can still say them to ourselves as adults. You go, woman! Lyndra

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lyndra: It is my dream to bring my work to kids one day so every little girl and boy hears adoring, championing words of their innate worthiness, wholeness and lovability. Thank you for appreciating my brave share, where I put my most vulnerable self on the line, hoping it would help others claim their best lives NOW!!! I am touched you like the picture of me as a little girl…I’m spending lots of time with that “inner child” lately loving her up, and celebrating her dream come true as a grown woman now. Appreciate your joy for me in this new leg of the journey! Blessings, Gail

  • Diane Polley says:

    So proud you are willing to share your personal story to help others. Having known you many years, I know how your journey hasn’t always been easy but you have persevered with grace. Although I grew up so loved and encouraged in all I wanted to become I am hopefully learning to be more aware and understanding of others and their histories.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Diane: Love that line “persevered with grace.” I know how you meant it, and have also come to believe “GRACE” always guides us. I never wanted “this mission,” which has been extremely challenging at times, but every time I wanted to give up, I’d get another sign, or someone would come forth (like my publicist) who believed in me. Those who grow up loved and encouraged received “gold,” that no material wealth can measure up to…you are indeed fortunate and also humble, to want to become more aware of others and the challenges of their upbringings. The first seven years of life are critical to our sense of worth and well-being and THEY CAN BE REWIRED…EVERYONE needs to know that…there is always hope. Blessings, Gail

  • This is a powerful reminder to all of us that have hidden our light too long…and now it ‘s time to shine.. You are an inspiration – we can do the work to heal and bring forth the courage that is required to live boldly and be seen. This message is sooo timely. It is to me where I am in my life. You’ve made it to the national stage, Congratulations!!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Sharon: Yes, It’s a big deal to make it to the national stage, but most importantly to have my worthiness message validated by a team of experts who spent a lot of time reviewing my credentials, my training, my passion and my delivery. The world, and especially kids and the younger generation now greatly impacted by the pandemic, needs to hear it, to have hope that they have the power within to create beyond circumstances…that they are worthy. WE ALL ARE. And, the bigger leap for me is connecting with others like you who are coming out of hiding. The world needs our light and our boldness as you so wisely note. I appreciate your excitement for this major life accomplishment. Blessings, Gail

  • Lisa May says:

    There is incredible beauty in your journey, Gail! Thank you for openly and vulnerably sharing both the pain and anticipation leading up to this proud moment where you will shine your light from a national stage. As I’ve said many times…..the world needs your authentic message and I am so excited for you! Well deserved…..Shine on, my friend!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lisa: Greater courage comes to us when we answer a call to serve…and sometimes it’s scary to be so vulnerable. I spent a lot of time pondering this blog post, and how “authentic” I would be. Yet, I pushed through so much fear and shame to reach this point, and wanted others to know it’s possible for them as well…that we are all meant to shine in our unique ways. Blessings, Gail

  • Lynn Marn says:

    Dear Gail,
    All I can say is “WOW”…..your best blog yet….What an amazing, heartfelt share of your courageous journey!

    A big, huge “CONGRATULATIONS” on your upcoming national TV debut….a chance to spread your love, hope and shine in bigger and brighter ways….from the heart!

    I believe your Mom is smiling down from a very special place watching and celebrating your dream come alive. Your little girl is just beautiful- all dressed up in her pretty party dress, necklace and bracelet….so sweet. WAY TO GO!!!!!!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lynn: Thank you for your beautiful, compassionate words of encouragement during this big leap–and for bringing my mom into this in such a loving, caring way. Your comment actually made me cry, to feel her presence surrounding me in this moment. To a new story…of dreams fulfilled. With love and gratitude, Gail

  • Laurie Gills says:

    I am deeply touched in reading your words. This intimate blog post reminds us, that in all of us, there lives a powerful force filled with courage, strength and above all, self love.

    I have become blessed in working with you, Gail. Congratulations!!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Laurie: It has been an honor to be your coach, and watch you evolve in new ways and deepen your sense of self-love. Thank you for your kind words on my intimate share, and reminding us of the powerful force that lives within all of us. Blessings, Gail

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