Bye-bye 2020

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”

 ~ Leo Buscaglia

An off-the-charts unusual year calls for a unique good-bye.

So, I’m taking a twist on letting go of 2020 by treating it in the same manner I have released relationships—reflecting on losses and gains, and spending time in gratitude for all the lessons I learned from each person who crossed my path.

Most importantly, I want to share a relationship insight I have taught clients over the years:  how you end one relationship can very much determine how your next one begins, or evolves.  

Coming from peace will strengthen both existing and future bonds.

In letting go of 2020, find healthy ways to release anger, disappointment, sadness and hurt, while also accepting our lives have been forever changed by the pandemic as new ways of being continue to emerge.  As many of you know, I offer EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping sessions to facilitate clearings from the past.

Anger may temporarily make you feel powerful, but in reality it can impact your health and well-being and keep your heart blocked from loving more fully.

Staying silent is no better, as many have witnessed when ghosted (welcome to the world of online dating) or ghosting another.  Wikipedia defines ghosting as “A colloquial term used to describe the practice of ceasing all communication and contact with a partner, friend, or similar individual without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said partner, friend, or individual.”

It is one thing to set boundaries as we articulate a need.  It is totally another issue to disappear without explanation for there is no formal, mature closure.  Not providing closure can be harmful to future relationships.  Learn more about the impact of ghosting here.

Instead of ghosting 2020, let’s befriend the year, find its blessings, while acknowledging losses and gains.

“Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.” ~ Osho

Here are a few samples from my 2020.

LOSSES:

  • I lost a friend to breast cancer.  She was the most joyful person I ever knew and taught me much about art, singing and dancing to one’s own rhythm of life.
  • The freedom to go where I want, with whom I want, and when I want.
  • In-person time with those I love.
  • The comfort of hugs.

GAINS:

  • More time spent delighting in my introverted nature, transforming grief over losses into creativity.
  • Bringing forth a totally rebranded website, podcasts, the most blogs I have ever written in a nine-month period and national TV and radio appearances.
  • Another deep, inner cleanse of what no longer serves me, to welcome more light.
  • Fine-tuned discernment skills.
  • Releasing unsupportive people: “If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” – Steve Maraboli
  • Freeing others to be their own best version of themselves.
  • Hundreds of hours in trainings to upgrade my coaching expertise and offerings.
  • Enriched friendships by sharing in meaningful conversations, listening more, on the phone or while hiking, versus on social media.

Looking back in general, 2020 gave many of us more time to “be” with ourselves, and perhaps refine who are or want to be, what our new priorities are, and how we want to express ourselves in the world.

Despite the pain and discomfort of mandated social distancing, that time alone was also a gift when seen in this way:  the relationship we develop with ourselves is the foundation for all our connections.

Hopefully, self-love and self-care became a larger part of your life this past year when the pace slowed down.  May you now know (if you didn’t already) that you are worthy of tending to your soul.

GOING FORWARD INTO 2021:

Winter, as animals teach us, is a time for hibernating. Embrace the quiet, post holidays.

It is natural right now to seek and need more inward time, which is critical for getting clear on what we want for creating anew.  Answers most often come in solitude, not busyness.  As I repeatedly share, without PAUSING, we tend to repeat the past.

Pick up a journal and start writing about new dreams.

We also need community to thrive.  For that reason, I am creating MONTHLY GROUP COACHING SESSIONS, in addition to my in-depth, highly personalized, six-week coaching packages for “Creating a New Mindset for Thriving in Worthiness.” (I’m keeping my private coaching session prices the same as this year for those who sign up by January 30th.)

My first group Zoom kick-off meeting is Sunday, Jan. 17th, at 3 p.m., with my vision board workshop detailed below.  Space is limited so sign up early.  Friends and clients from past and present, and from across the world, have already committed–creating the makings for a rich, diverse experience.

KNOW THIS: Often we create from our limited perspective. To broaden and thrive, it helps to have others share ways we can expand our vision beyond what we alone imagine.  Plus, it is fun to grow collectively.

Happy 2021!  I hope to “see” you this year online with me, or meet you as listeners of my new podcast launching January 5th.  I have an exciting lineup of guests.

Cheers and blessings…with a renewed FIERCENESS for all that is good and light,

Gail

I captured the above photo from a wall hanging in the gift shop at the Franciscan Renewal Center in Paradise Valley, Arizona.

 

COMING IN JANUARY-EMPOWERING YOURSELF THROUGH GROUP COACHING

My recent appearance on CBS-TV is directly related to the dream I placed on my vision board for becoming a nationally recognized expert on worthiness.  In fact, 90 percent of the dreams I have placed on my vision boards in the past three years have come true. Why? I incorporate neuroscience and other unique tools in creating my vision boards and spend time getting VERY CLEAR beforehand.

 I would like to help you do the same, using the power of group energy to accelerate the process.

Coach Gail Jones Zoom Group Coaching Classes

Coach Gail Jones Zoom Group Coaching Classes

 BRINGING YOUR DREAMS TO LIFE in 2021

“Harnessing the Power of the Vision Board Using Neuroscience”

…Creating anew beyond just the pictures

(Via my new ZOOM group coaching class)

Sunday, January 17, 2021

3 p.m. EST

Special introductory session, $25

SIGN UP EARLY as this group coaching session is expected to fill up fast, by emailing gailjones@claimyourworthiness.com

 

A subsequent, four-session (February to May) monthly group program to follow: “Using the Vision Board as a Catalyst for Change”—Opening the door to expanding your life in unlimited ways, and staying on track with your dreams. (Price to be determined later based on the size of group.)

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  • Thomas Ogren says:

    Love to see you quoting Leo Buscaglia! I was lucky enough to hear him talk once, and I was the first man in the audience who took his invitation and came down to get a big hug from him. A great guy with an awesome message, needed more now than ever. To a much-improved 2021 for us all.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lucky you, Tom, to have met him and get what we all need right now: a big hug! Yes to a much improved 2021. Happy New Year! Blessings, Gail

  • Looking forward to the Vision Board Zoom gathering with you. I am excited this year to take a deeper dive into neuroscience and neuroplasticity and the bold shifts I imagine yet hold lightly…. And what a great place to start with you and your coaching group!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Sharon: I am so excited to teach this Vision Board workshop and share unique insights for creating anew, and some of my “secrets” that make a huge difference in bringing new dreams forth. “See” you on the 17th–it’s going to be a miraculous year of new light and love! Blessings, Gail

  • Lynn Marn says:

    Happy Happy New Year Gail! Looking forward to your Vision Board workshop and bringing new creations into existence in 2021! Releasing all that no longer serves me and welcoming in the new!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Glad you are joining us for my Vision Board workshop on the 17th, Lynn. It is my hope that this new online community elevates together to new levels this year, feeling supported, championed and cherished. To welcoming 2021 with new energy and hopes. Blessings, Gail

  • Cynde denson says:

    Another beautifully written post Gail. 2020 contained a whole gamut of heartbreak and joy. While we say goodbye to that year, let’s keep that open mind and open heart to the new possibilities that 2021 holds. You have certainly done that and beautifully inspire others to follow your lead. New Year’s has always been my favorite holiday to embrace the potentiality of the year. I am happy to have kicked it off with your wisdom.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Cynde: Glad you enjoyed the post (and there’s related one tomorrow about welcoming 2021). Happy New Year’s to you! Enjoy your favorite holiday. Blessings, Gail

  • Paulo Simoes says:

    Excellent post Gail. Thanks for sharing! Happy 2021…

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Paulo: Happy 2021 to you, too. It was a great working with you in 2020 as I rebranded my business. Blessings, Gail

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