Christmas miracles…and more

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

~Albert Einstein

I believe in miracles. I experienced a huge one personally 24 years ago. Something that I was told was physically impossible to happen did, in fact, occur. Miracles often arrive after surrendering to a plan much greater than our will.

This year, for many, it is harder to believe in miracles. For me, and lots of others, I never thought I would be celebrating this holiday season alone, thousands of miles apart from those I love.

It’s okay to feel sad, angry, and even in despair. Let’s stop pretending that all is the same, or all is well as we expected, before the pandemic.

Today, I share, with permission, portions of a newsletter from a respected colleague, Dr, Gary Salyer:

Christmas 2020

“This is a very different holiday season for most of us. I’m sure you probably already know that. The holidays can be such a season of joy. I’ve had some wonderful ‘Hallmark’ holiday seasons in my life. Yet as we all know, not every season brings peace, togetherness, and joy – this probably being one of them for many of us. I sure know that’s the case for me. So I want to tell you what I’ve learned over the years that has helped me deal with holidays just like this one that are emotionally trying or disappointing.

The key is to realize that the holidays don’t reflect reality as it is- especially our emotional reality. They also don’t tell you the truth about your connections. What’s more true, is the holidays act as an emotional amplifier for whatever feeling we bring into it. If we start out with happiness, we get excitement and joy. In other words, we get ‘Hallmark.’

The opposite is also true too. If we come into the season with sadness, we get grief. If we experience lack of connection – like we are now – we will often feel far lonelier, down, or disappointed than we would on other days of the year.

Why do we feel worse or better than usual? It’s because the holidays act like an emotional amplifier for any feeling that we bring into it.

So how do we handle those ‘other’ holiday moments that you never see on a card? First, realize that these feelings are not ‘you.’ They are amplified feelings based on heightened expectations. Most of all, these amplified feelings are not your truth.

Eventually, the down feelings will pass given time. Given time, things tend to level out in life. I believe that’s still the case even now as well.

Secondly, it’s OK to find the support you need – if not in person then online. Holidays are all about belonging. So, it’s OK to find the people who can support and give the support you need – and that doesn’t always have to be your family. Friends are wonderful places to find support and love during painful holidays. So get on Zoom or Skype and find the support you need.

(Rumor has it Santa has replaced Rudolph with a new reindeer called Zoomer this year. That’s the word on the street! It’s not a bad idea.)

Above all, don’t make yourself wrong for any feeling. One thing I learned a long time ago was that neither the joyous nor the painful holiday experiences defined me. These feelings were but localized experiences in the broader, more uplifting path of my entire life’s purpose and path. So, don’t let any of these feelings define your life or color your future. You can create your own experience – even around the holidays.

If you are close to someone who is experiencing a ‘not so Hallmark’ moment this season, the best gift you can offer them is friendship and support. You can extend the feeling of belonging to someone who needs it, even if they aren’t your real family. When you reach out to someone like this, you give him or her a gift that is truly worthy of the holidays.

If you are feeling joyous, why not spread the wealth around? Finally, I wish for everyone that the brightest lights of the holidays – peace, joy and love – be yours this season.  In light and love, Gary 

P.S. Let’s try to support each other more during these upcoming holidays!”

With gratitude for Gary’s insightful words… and my heartfelt Christmas and holiday blessings to all.

With love,

Gail

The above “miracle photo” was taken by my friend, Sharon Spector, a Sarasota, Florida-based photographer who is passionate about the unexpected moments and whimsy in life through bright colors and a joie de vivre. She studied photography at Jeff Bernier’s Photography Studio in Montmartre, Paris.  To see more of her work, email sharingjoy@ymail.com.

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  • Joyce mcdonough says:

    Gail, Thank you for sharing Gary’s words. It definitely resonates with me, as it has in many holidays past, as it all depends on “what is happening” at this time. Some holidays have been joyful, others no so much, but it comes and it goes. What we do with it is all our decision and at times i’ve decided not to participate for one reason or another and those have truly been the less joyful ones. What he explains is so true, and I appreciate the wisdom and I remember that I am blessed to be able to share with those I can vs. those I cannot. Reaching out to others can be our gift and our joy so it’s nice to have that reminder. Thank you for sharing and Blessings to you for a wonderful Christmas. With much love, Joyce

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      You’re welcome, Joyce: I was thrilled Gary generously shared his newsletter insights with my blog readers. There are so many gems of wisdom within the post about dealing with emotions this holiday season. And, I am inspired to keep spreading joy and extending myself to others, no matter the circumstances, while acknowledging the sadness of being without family this Christmas season. It doesn’t have to be an either/or. Wishing you and yours the joy of connection, no matter what form it takes. With love and gratitude, Gail

  • Doug Campbell says:

    Sending blessings and joy to all this holiday season!

    Joy is an expression of love! So, let’s all bask in the love and joy of this holiday season. And since we are the designers of our own futures, let’s use this time of positive energy to recharge our creative energies to propel us forward into the new year with new purpose and a new vision of our future selves!

    Wishing you and yours a very blessed holiday season!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks for your joy-filled wishes, Doug. May you and yours be embraced in love. And, I send compassion to all those who ache to have family nearby and cannot physically be with them this year. May “connection” find its way into all hearts in diverse and creative ways. Blessings, Gail

  • Denise Souza says:

    That was 100% accurate! Important reminder to capture our thoughts and consciously direct them during a time when they can easily get derailed!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Yes, Denise, Gary did a great job of helping us all find a broader perspective for embracing the holidays. Glad you valued his insights. Blessings, Gail

  • Cynde Denson says:

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful holiday advice Gail. Now more than ever, we need to lean on each other. As a wise friend once said, “ support matters.” Have a beautiful holiday.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Cynde: You’re so sweet and clever…love how you tied your comment in with the former name of my business, SupportMatters.com. Glad you found Gary’s advice beautiful…wishing you and yours as wonderful holiday as you can create. Blessings, Gail

  • Bev Wax says:

    I believe in miracles as well. People often think of a miracle as describing something big but we must remember there are small miracles out there too. If we’re lucky, most everyday! Gary’s words were wonderful. Because of his thought on supporting others, I reached out to my new neighbors whom I never really met by baking cookies. A simple gift. I did not let my perfectionist tendencies get in the way of my reaching out (some of the cookies definitely looked homemade!). Gail, all my best to you this holiday season!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Bev: I love how you noted that there are miracles every day, and that we don’t need something big to happen to feel the gifts of grace. Glad you found Gary’s words and ideas helpful, and that you acted on one of them by reaching out to others. What a beautiful gesture of extending yourself (and your baking) to your new neighbors. Thank you for the holiday wishes…may you be surrounded by love, and a sense of connection, no matter what form it takes this year. Blessings, Gail

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