Don’t forget to dance

“Every day brings a chance for you to draw in a breath, kick off your shoes and dance.”
~Oprah Winfrey

Doing something new, as often as possible, is a commitment I made to myself.

Getting out of one’s comfort zone, and trying something new, helps rewire the brain for more optimal living through expansion, according to my training in neuroscience.

This daily choice helps me feel “Born to be alive,” which is the focus and name of my new energy-driven coaching program of rising up from the inside out in magnificent, fulfilling ways this year.* Participants will learn NEW leading-edge tools for quickly dropping “old stories,” stopping the mind chatter, and living from a greater sense of aliveness and connectedness.

Part of dropping more of the ego’s limited, albeit sometimes helpful ways of being, is to continually “get out of the head.”

This year for me, after lots of inward soul time, is about getting more into the body, and not just at the gym or on the hiking trails.

I started dance lessons, which I haven’t done since decades ago when I was preparing for my wedding. This round of learning is a lot more fun, as there is no pressure to quickly perform well. And there is less caring about what others think of me, or my performance, at midlife (which is now believed to start at 35 years old and stretch to age 75 and beyond).

Being led by a young, accomplished male dancer, who came and took my hand, and guided me to the dance floor and back to my seat with dignity and respect, certainly has been an uplifting experience. The kind and supportive eye contact, and gentle ways I was guided, took the edge off being a learner again, and the discomfort of being outside my comfort zone.

And my instructor told me his name, Barnabas, means “encourager.” How “divine” is that!  I Googled the name later and found it is a Greek name which means “son of encouragement.” In the Bible, Barnabas was a disciple known for his mentoring and support.

I felt honored with grace by his attentiveness, a welcome reprieve from “the cloak of invisibility” that sometimes comes with age, when others may overlook us, not understanding our full beauty and value of our elder wisdom.

And if you’re over 60 like me, and think it’s too late to learn to dance well, think again by reading what this 79-year old is doing sometimes until 3 a.m.

On the younger end of life, (I’m talking teens and youth), for even more inspiration and fun, check out this movie, “Take the Lead,” with Antonio Banderas.

Or, go listen to this song I named my blog after: “Don’t Forget to Dance” (written by Ray Davies of the British rock group, The Kinks).

According to this Harvard Health blog, dance also has been shown to have all the physiological benefits of other forms of exercise, such as building muscle and bone, reducing fat, increasing aerobic capacity, lowering blood press and improving the rations of “good” to “bad” cholesterol.

There are also neurological benefits of dance, according to Harvard Medical School, including:

  • reducing stress
  • increasing levels of the feel-good hormone serotonin
  • helping develop new neural connections, especially in regions involved in executive function, long-term memory, and spatial recognition.

To learn more about the joys and potential for expansion at midlife and beyond, check out my latest interview, “Born to be alive! No matter your age or circumstance” with Robin Thomas, of Living Well Connection, and her “Over 40 and Fabulous” podcast series.

And please take the time to subscribe to my You Tube channel, as your engagement means so very much to me. It’s one of my ways of building community to help us all stay connected, which enhances our quality of life.

Give yourself 15-minutes of self-care today to listen to the podcast and learn:

  • How to add 7.5 years to your life (and it’s not through diet or exercise)
  • How many of us will still be working (hopefully joyfully) at age 75
  • Why age is wisdom and hiring “older workers” is a great investment
  • A simple tip on how to live, create, and thrive from a loved-based consciousness (and two words to focus on before entering any meeting)

To recruiters, leaders, and those who work with “older adults”: There are some key insights within especially for you.


*I am accepting 10 new clients for my “Born to be alive” coaching program. If you are interested in joining, please email, to schedule a complimentary, 30-minute coaching session to see if we’re a fit to work together. Please put the word “Coaching” in the subject line.

Wishing you all the joys of “new” life this year.

Ponder this beautiful thought below from Martha Graham, who was an American modern dancer and choreographer. Her style, the Graham technique, reshaped American dance and is still taught worldwide. Graham danced and taught for more than 70 years.

In her words:

“Dance is the hidden language of the soul.”

With love and gratitude,




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