Easing up on ourselves

___ “Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.”~ Brené Brown___ ___

I was out walking the other day, several feet apart from any passerby, when my cell phone rang. “Gail, correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought we had an appointment today,” the kind voice on the other end of the phone gently said.

I looked at the time on my cell phone, and immediately responded, “Yes, you are right. I’ll call you back in 15 minutes.” I dashed back home, mortified at first, as that was the first time in 20 years as a coach that I had forgotten about a client appointment.

Once we connected again, and I apologized for the confusion, the client and I both laughed. She had fallen asleep and was 20 minutes late for our scheduled time, and thought the error was her fault. Nope, it was mine. I forgot what day it was.

Many of us are starting to feel days blurring together. Some days are long and drawn out, with no motivation to do anything. Other days feel short, busy and production-filled.

Waking up, we often are unsure which type of day will unfold.

There is no “new normal” during the current pandemic. None of us, including the “experts” and authorities trying to lead us, have ever been through any like this before.

Mistakes, missteps, fluctuating moods and energy levels are all part of this huge worldwide transformation–reminders we need to loosen up, and forgive ourselves for not being the perfect boss, manager, parent, friend, partner, spouse, roommate or whatever ideal role we are “supposed” to be.

Even entrepreneur Tom Bilyeu, the the highly successful founder of Quest Protein Bars and Impact Theory, teaches in his “growth mindset” approach to igniting human potential that it is okay to be average, especially when learning something new. Perfectionism holds us back from taking chances in new ways. And, right now, just about everything– from how we work, connect with one another, exercise, grocery shop, and entertain ourselves—is new for most of us.

A little humor goes an extra long way. Give yourself permission to screw up now and then, and laugh about it later, like the other day when I was on a Zoom call with my son. I noticed how much longer his hair had gotten, and commented on how much I liked it. “It’s not like I could have gotten it cut, Mom.” Duh! Yes, barbershops in New York, where he attends college (via online classes currently), are closed now.

Often, it is our imperfections that more closely bond us to one another, for they put on us on a level playing field with the rest of humanity, which is sometimes just as flawed–and equally as perfect as we are.

With gentleness and compassion,


P.S.  I’d love to hear some of your own stories about your “COVID moments” of forgetfulness or “mistakes” in the comments section below this post.

The above graphic was created by Beth Shedd, who has a knack for cleverly aligning her great photography with the tone and intent of a message.

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  • Maureen says:

    Perfect for today Gail. Thanks.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Glad you enjoyed it, Maureen. You just reminded me it’s time to eat lunch–like three hours ago:) It’s one of those busier, more productive days, where this time I lost track of time because I’ve been so engaged with my work. WHEW!

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