“When we are children, we seldom think of the future. This innocence leaves us free to enjoy ourselves as few adults can. The day we fret about the future is the day we leave our childhood behind.” ~ Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind


The loss many of us are grieving these days is the loss of innocence. Like children, we naively thought the world would carry on as it always has.

Now, everything has changed, and we have come face-to-face with the illusion of control.

We are not the same as we were several months ago, and there is no clear plan for moving forward. Yes, there is anger, frustration, fear, and worry on one end of the spectrum, which create stress hormones.

On the other end of the scale, by living in the higher vibration energies of love, joy and gratitude, we can bolster our immune systems (as scientifically proven through HeartMath Institute and other leading researchers).

To begin elevating our state of mind for optimal health, reclaim the childlike sense of awe and wonder by living in the present moment. Notice the small things, which ironically often become big things in their ability to provide simple pleasures–the sweet smile from a stranger, watching two squirrels jump from branch to branch, or joining a new socially distanced hiking group to get out in nature and meet new friends, people with whom you may not have crossed paths with sitting in a cubicle or participating in a Zoom call.

Then, stop “awfulizing” the future.

Instead of focusing on worst-case scenarios, try focusing on some of these thoughts:

  • Like with all transformation, there is often a sense of chaos and coming apart before a breakthrough occurs. Some of our old paradigms and ways of doing things are no longer in our best interest for our highest good. New ways will emerge; we are meant to grow.
  • The increased time at home has helped many of us get grounded within, reevaluate our priorities, deepen our connections to others and ourselves, and improve our environment with less pollution.
  • Change is a time to be resourceful and tap into our creativity. Try doing something as simple as modifying a go-to recipe with a new spice or finishing a scrapbook of your child’s memories, to something bigger like writing a book or creating a new business.

Another opportunity before us is to stop looking for someone to parent us, take care of us, and make it all better. Instead, we can use this time to become the best versions of ourselves so we can impact the needed changes for a better world.

 “Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” ~ Anne Frank

 Let me help guide you through a collaborative process of self-discovery. Email to learn more.

With love and great hope,


The precious photo of the innocent little girl is another one of my friend Sharon Spector’s “beach collections” from Sarasota, Florida. To see more of her work, email



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  • Doug says:

    So much wisdom in so few paragraphs!

    Lots to reflect upon and process!

    Thank you for sharing this timely and timeless piece!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Doug, for appreciation of these insights gathered…don’t you just love the little girl my friend Sharon captured? Her preciousness inspired me to write this blog:) Blessings, Gail

  • Gail, the blog re-inspired me how to live more “pro-actively” while I spend so much time at home. A deeper dive for sure that prompted me to focus more on my creativity. Thank you!. Beautifully written. xox

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Sharon: You are most welcome. I am thrilled my blog re-inspired you in new ways, and brought you back to your creativity. You are a gifted artist in many ways. With love and appreciation, Gail

  • Lisa May says:

    Beautifully stated, Gail! Thank you for creating this sacred space where people can reflect and grow:)

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Lisa: Thank you for so eloquently describing, in your deeply insightful ways, what I want this blog and website to be all about–“a sacred space where people can reflect and grow.” I have a related book/e-book in the works. Blessings, Gail

  • Diane johnston says:

    Gail, as usual your messages are insightful and timely. I especially like your coaching to “use this time to become the best versions of ourselves.” These best versions of course include abundance, joy and most importantly worthiness. In this turbulent time, we can sit quietly to recognize and declare our own worthiness. That we are good enough. That we do matter. That we are perfect exactly the way we are. And to remind ourselves and all in our paths that we do not need to DO anything, we simply ARE. Worthy.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Diane: Thanks for sharing your insights. I have consistently taught my clients the same about worthiness: It’s not about what we DO or HAVE, it’s about WHO we are. The greatest challenge for some is learning to “BE,” and embracing these moments of non-doing as “productive.” Yet, they are the richest moments of our lives. Going inward is the only way to create lasting transformation. Spending time sitting in silence with new insights also helps them become integrated. Of course, then we must take “inspired actions” to live from the new sense of our true self. Like I shared in my first book, To Hell and Back: Healing Your Way Through Transition, there
      are “3 Ps”: Pause, Pace and Participate. Right now, collectively, we are all being asked to pause. Choosing to embrace, versus resist, the pause will lead us forward in new ways, from the inside out. Blessings, Gail

  • Bev Wax says:


    All I can say is this is a wonderful post. Gives me a lot to reflect upon. And I love the picture of the little girl!


    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Bev: That little girl is precious…perfect for the message. Grateful for Sharon’s photography. Blessings, Gail

  • oliver says:

    I love how you express yourself!

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