Let’s get personal

“On the emotional side, humans need deep and meaningful relationships within which to develop their identity and to thrive in life.”

~Dr. Caroline Leaf

We have more ways of connecting than ever before thanks to social media, yet are the loneliest we have ever been.

Quick “likes” and “comments” don’t convey the depth of relating that helps us thrive or heal. In fact, we have an epidemic of loneliness, according to Dr. Caroline Leaf, as noted in her article below:

https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/the-loneliness-epidemic

Most significant is the study within the article that states loneliness actually increases the risk for premature mortality among all ages.

Life challenges (like the pandemic) or grief sometimes bring us together in new ways, re-prioritizing what really matters in life.

In the past month, I lost a friend and a family member. Their deaths hit me differently–due to the length of years I knew them, the depth of the connection, and the circumstances of their passing.

Yet, the commonality in both losses was the richer and more vulnerable ways in which I communicated within my circles of friends and loved ones.

One friend cried on the phone with me. Another called consistently to check in. It was such a relief to be real, versus stoic and push through the losses. Most importantly, I felt witnessed in my pain and sorrow, and enriched by sharing with others also impacted by the losses.

One friend even suggested that the death of our mutual acquaintance actually served a larger purpose in bringing us together to heal and move forward, carrying forth the gifts we got from the one who suddenly passed.

Removing my coach hat, taking in love and support as a human suffering, was liberating.

I also see something bigger happening for all of us here in our unfolding new world as we seek ways to get out of isolation, much of it exasperated by global conditions.

We are being nudged to move from a “me-centered” world, back to where we collectively prosper, by operating collectively.

These quotes inspire me forward:

  • “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space.  He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness.  This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.  Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”~Albert Einstein
  • “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.” ~ Herman Melville

For this reason, I am committed to building a monthly online community.  Those undergoing transition, or committed to growing in authenticity, can come to learn, share and be witnessed.

We can expand by Googling information we need, or listen to thought leaders on You Tube and elsewhere. Yet, being lovingly and compassionately WITNESSED by being seen, heard, validated and acknowledged in a small, courageous group of companions journeying into the greatest versions of themselves is uplifting, compelling and enlivening.

Commit to growing in community. I have 5 spots left in my second monthly online, small group coaching class Nov. 4th, 6 to 7:30 p.m. EST. Give yourself the gift of genuine connection.

Learn more below, or by emailing gailjones@claimyourworthiness.com.

Hope to see you there. Together, we are stronger.

Blessings,

Gail

My friend and photographer, Beth Scanzani, of Rockport, MA, captured this image above of the two swans, seeing them as “a beautiful symbol of how connection co-creates love.”

Rose Russo of Pathways Graphics Design created my class flyer.

 

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  • dijana winter says:

    Dear Gail,
    What a beautifully written and genuinely inspiring blog, dear friend.
    Thank you for all the gifts you give to all who know you.
    Much Love,
    Dijana

    • Gail Kauranen Jones (“Coach Gail Jones”—Your worthiness expert) says:

      Thank you, Dijana: And I feel blessed for all those who are growing with me and my work in this new world unfolding. It’s a precious time for building and maintaining deeper connections. Much love to you as well, my friend and colleague, Gail

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