More than our circumstances

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(The first blog in a two-part series on “EMBRACING THE NOW OF NEW BEGINNINGS”)

“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstances.”

–Bruce Barton

Yikes.  “No more” I want to scream as I experience a flurry of challenging circumstances.  Then, as I sit back and detach as a witness, I see– as my wise friend, Catherine, who is also a spiritual teacher, says– that I am indeed being initiated into a new life.

It is easy and “safe” to sit behind a computer screen and write of self-love and self-care, messages I have felt called to deliver for a long while.  Many of my readers respond with kind and encouraging words.

Yet, in preparing to be out in the world in bigger and more visible ways dealing with people who are unconscious or unaware of their own divinity, I also have to be ready for the adverse reactions.

One person of late suggested that my well-researched book in development is “psycho-babble” should I not lead with the brave choices I have made—even though I “know” the loving words that came to me in the middle of the night were ushered in by wise grace.  I am choosing to honor that grace, regardless of what others think.

There will be many who disagree or disapprove of my approach to well-being–just as in my clients’ lives, there are many who do not necessarily wholeheartedly support the changes they are making.

Living our truth requires we honor ourselves and our inner “knowing” first.  Validation from others is nice, but it cannot be the driving force of delivering our gifts to the world.

Another lesson I learned recently from my “circumstances” is that I am no longer the fearful child who played “good” instead of speaking up for fear of being reprimanded.  I now honor my own voice and express my needs—even if those words make others uncomfortable.  “If one of has to be uncomfortable, it doesn’t have to be me” is a quote I often cited (and I cannot recall the source) years ago as I was learning to refrain from people-pleasing behavior.

Often my voice is kind and loving.  Yet, other times it is firm, setting boundaries with those who lash out at me instead of accepting responsibility for their own shortcomings or insecurities.

I am choosing to stay in one particularly challenging situation now for I keep hearing an inner whisper telling me there is a reason I am there.  I surrender to not knowing the answer yet as I continue practicing seeing myself beyond the current challenge.

I will keep you posted on what lessons or gifts transpire from waiting it out and trusting in myself.

NEXT WEEK, to be posted on Tuesday, June 3:  Part Two– “Enough rewinding.” 


1.  I allow myself to accept grace is working even in less than desirable circumstances.

2.  I allow myself to know my essence is stronger than external situations.

3.  I allow myself to honor my own knowing and gifts regardless of current circumstances.

Beth Shedd’s photo of the mermaid weathervane reminds us to keep our spirit strong and solid when tested by persistent wind.  You can learn more about how Beth sees the world at





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  • Carrie says:

    Thank you Gail for your wise words.Sometimes I feel our less than desirable circumstances keep us humble, so that we may better understand and serve others. It’s all good. At least this has been my experience.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      You’re welcome, Carrie–and I appreciate YOUR wise insights on being kept humble to serve. Gail

  • kim says:

    Morning Gail,
    I don’t think there is a famous person out there who hasn’t experienced heaps of criticism. Thought leaders scare the average folk. Keep up the great work!
    Sending love.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Kim–and us “thought leaders” and our work is so needed. Reminds me of something my son recently said to me when I asked him what he respects about me. His response: “You never give up.” Persistence is part of success. I appreciate your encouragement, too:) Love, Gail

  • Dick Joseph says:

    Gail, If you put yourself out there with ideas that challenge people to be honest with themselves of ask them to look at the world in a different way, you will be criticized. Some people don’t like or welcome change. Doing their thing…even if it is demonstrably wrong, is easier than changing to do something different – even if the change will make them better. Instead, it is easier to criticize the messenger – try to bring you down to their level – than it is to either look at themselves and accept that they might be doing something that needs changing or just give you encouragement. People are the best and the worst part of every day….you just have to focus on those who make up the “best” parts. Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re Awesome!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Dick: Thank you for your thoughtful comments and worldview. The more public and visible we become the more we also become the target of others’ projections–a reminder that our sense of worth and validation always must come from within. Like you, I do try to focus on what makes up the “best” parts. The current challenging situation that is reminding me to center within was not about the criticism I received–although the criticism is helping me create the “alligator skin” I need to do my work in broader ways. I appreciate your encouragement!!!! Gail

  • Janice says:

    I am eager to read what you have to say about “rewinding,” as I have been horribly stuck in rewind mode for weeks. It’s not a healthy or happy or productive place to be. A combination of therapies, including love from friends and my daughters, wise advice from counselors, meditation, Rx’s, and sheer determination are pulling me forward. Rewinding is not soul-searching. (If we mean the same thing by rewinding.) It is more like self I flagellation! I know I will be better off in the future because of this very uncomfortable period, but OMG, can’t wait until it is a memory. By the way, I appreciate your blogs more and more. Namaste.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Janice: So lovely to hear from you after all these years–but not under your own trying circumstances. I am glad you are looking forward to Part 2 of my blog next week, and that you are enjoying my writing more and more. Some very important and loving messages keep coming to me, so much so that I often awake very early in the morning to jot them all down knowing they will be part of future blogs and my book in development. Thanks for taking the time to write and let me know my work has touched you in some way. Blessings to you, Gail.

  • Hi Gail, I applaud you for listening to and taking action on your own guidance even when others disagree! Much love, Lyndra

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