One with the ball…Embracing “the sweet spots” of life

“Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free.  Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing.  This is the ultimate.”

 –Chuang Tzu

In playing tennis, I have moments when I feel “one with the ball.”  They happen when the tennis ball hits that very sweet center spot of the racquet, and I almost effortlessly direct its return to an opponent.

There is a sense of flow, in that by simply focusing and paying attention to the activity at hand, this game feels easy and engaging.  I get out of my own way, or at least my head, and respond intuitively to the sport.

I also feel that same sense of flow frequently when I am writing.  By simply placing my fingers on the keyboard, I become the vehicle for accepting the words I am divinely guided to deliver to the masses.  I do not push for the “right” message.  Instead, I create time beforehand to be quiet, either through walking or meditating, and allow the wisdom to come forth by staying focused on the present.

The other times I experience that sense of “being one with the ball” like in tennis are when the right people or perfect opportunities seem to miraculously appear after I get very clear about my intentions.  This past year, for example, I set a goal of expanding my joy of sharing by collaborating with others.  Two very talented people, Beth Scanzani and Beth Shedd, came forth to offer their photography to me for use in my blogs and coaching newsletters.  Co-creating with them feels easy and abundant.

Through becoming open to receiving, without setting any agendas of how my own talents or others’ gifts should be delivered, I increasingly experience more sweet spots in life. 

Living in the moment, and accepting life “as is” takes practice.  The rewards for such diligence are numerous.  Becoming increasingly peaceful, regardless of challenging external circumstances, is one of the gains.

What better time to practice living in the moment than this summer, as many of our souls are longing for respite from the heaviness of winter–particularly this year after being housebound through many significant snowstorms.

Wishing you all a happy, sweet summer of lightheartedness and fun!


 BELIEF TIPS OF THE WEEK for Embracing More “Sweet Spots” of Life:

Write out the statements below long-hand a few times each day. Then, repeat out loud as frequently as you desire, but especially in the morning and at night when in restful states:

1. I allow myself to receive more peace and contentment by accepting the flow of life, moment by moment.

2.  I allow myself to stay focused on the activities at hand without over-thinking, freeing my mind to just be.

 Beth Shedd’s photo of the “centered” ball on the racquet strings reminds us to keep contact with the many sweet spots in our lives.


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  • Christine Rothman says:

    If I could just remember these thoughts before I get overwrought! It is so true that when I am the most focused I am so “in the zone”. However, I think that I have not yet learned to focus and enjoy. This will allow me to really be in the moment with what I am focused on. Sometimes, I am so focused on controlling what is around me and my family (because I think I can make everything perfect by control) that I don’t accept and utilize what is happening around me…going with the flow allows us to adapt and take advantage of what is happening, good or bad. In other words, entertain the “possibilities”.

    • Gail says:

      Great insights, Christine. I especially like your thought about “entertain the possibilities.” It seems easier to do when we realize perfection is an impossible standard anyways, and limits us, versus expands us. Happy summer.

  • Jay says:

    I have real troubles staying the moment. I use some mindfulness techniques but find it very difficult especially at work. Do you have some tips for staying in the moment in a chaotic work environment?

    • Gail says:

      Great question. Besides taking many deep breaths…Yes, I would recommend you focus on what feels purposeful about your work–and the positive emotions that come from serving others with excellence, as I know that is part of what you do. Stay in your own power by centering on your own skills and talents without letting the environment define who you are. And, if I were to focus on one specific belief to repeat in my head when life seems to be swirling around me, I would say: “I allow myself to know I matter.” I hope this helps.

  • Linda says:

    As always another wonderful post, Gail! Thank you for your brilliant insights and for sharing them so perfectly helping us all do better in our lives.

    • Gail says:


      Thanks for the warm and kind words. You touched my “sweet spot” in another way by sharing that my writing inspires readers like you to do better in their lives. Happy, joyful summer to you.

  • Lynn says:

    Great post, Gail. I like using a daily affirmation. The one for today is: “Everything in my life flows perfectly and with ease.” It makes me feel calm and centered. So far, so good!

    • Gail says:

      Thanks, Lynn… for the compliment, and for sharing your daily affirmation for staying calm and centered with all of us.

  • Lauren says:

    thank you Gail, your words mean so much to me. Staying focused, present and mindful is a great task each day and having your reminders is so very meaningful.

    • Gail says:

      Lauren: I am glad to know my words touch you and serve as helpful reminders in keeping you mindful and centered.

  • Meg says:

    Gail – I love the analogy to the sweet spot on a tennis racket! You have a way of putting into words thoughts that flit through my head but I never take the time to verbalize them. I remember that feeling of being right on target when playing tennis and it is a joy when life is working that way. I realize that when I stop trying to control things that I cannot control and accept what is, life is so much happier and easier to live. Thanks for encouraging me to focus on the moment!

    • Gail says:


      I am glad you were able to conjure up your own memories and joys from being “on target” when playing tennis–and for reminding us that we can continually return to that place of peace and flow when let go of trying to control everything in our lives and practice more acceptance.

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