Shifting Into Wonder

“The meaning I picked, the one that changed my life: Overcome fear, behold wonder.” –Richard Bach

If we can still our minds of fear and worry when in uncertainty, and open instead to living from an expanded sense of curiosity, we can increasingly feel the support of energies beyond the limits of our ego’s desire for instant gratification.

Instead of asking how something will happen, willing an outcome, or trying to analyze all the different angles of a situation, try trusting in the mysterious ways life delivers us our messages.

Letting go of expectations and accepting life as it is—without needing to do anything immediately to fix it–keeps us in a state of wonder. Even the times we feel slighted or wronged are gifts. The job you did not get or the date who did not call as you hoped may be readying you for more, to raise your bar to an opportunity even greater.

“I wonder what my life will look like if I am lovingly supported in moving forth?” is a great question to ponder versus “How will I take the next steps?” The curiosity of wonder allows for new doors to open, while asking “how” often keeps us stuck in the restrictions of what has been familiar to us based on early conditioning.

Adding joyful anticipation versus dread to our wondering helps lift us to more positive energies as well. Here are a few sample statements that can help add joy, delight and appreciation to our lives: “I wonder what helpful person I may meet at this networking meeting,” “I wonder where I will meet my soul mate,” or “I wonder what my project will look like upon completion.”

To stay in the rewards of living from wonder, I often tell clients that when they are on the “right” path in moving forward–whether they are changing careers, starting a new relationship, moving cross country or bringing forth some other new dream– to observe synchronicities in life or those magical coincidences that continue to appear.

“Rightness” often feels easy, even if work is involved. The distinguishing factor is lack of struggle. Relationships and starting new businesses, for example, require thoughtful attention and care, or “work” in nurturing them. Struggle often enters the scenario if there is a mismatch with your authenticity and you are trying “too hard” to make it work.

Ease, on the other hand, is unwilled. Last week, as I was leaving home to give my first live presentation in front of cameras about “Imagining Greatness” to a roomful of entrepreneurs, two emails appeared on my computer screen within seconds of my departure. The first, a quote from George Lucas, film director, said: “You can’t do it unless you can imagine it.” His thoughts perfectly summed up my seminar topic. The second quote, from Orison Swett Marden, writer, said: “All men who have achieved great things have been great dreamers.”

Sometimes, we have to let go of control and sit through the initial discomfort of not knowing before becoming attuned to signals for moving ahead. The clarity that helps us form and implement our dreams often takes time to develop. Instead of resisting uncharted territories, try using these times to build stronger trust and faith in yourself.

As poet e.e. cummings has said, “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”


 Write out the statements below long-hand each day. Then, repeat out loud as frequently as you desire, but especially in the morning and at night when in restful states:

1. I allow myself to stay open to the joy, excitement and delights of wonder.

2. I allow myself to take the time to get clear versus rushing to decisions out of panic or insecurity.

3. I allow myself to feel firmly rooted in my own sense of personal value.

4. I allow myself to trust I am being protected and served in the unknown.

Beth Shedd captures the expansiveness and joy of living in wonder in this photo of her child playing in the ocean at sunset.

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  • Margo Carey says:

    Hi Gail,
    Great blog. I love the topic and the affirmations.
    Thank you,

  • Liz says:

    Such a refreshingly positive approach. It made me feel optimistic just reading it. Thank you!

    • Gail says:

      Liz: I am glad my blog today helped you feel optimistic. it’s so important to know we have the power within us to shift into positive states of mind. Thanks for sharing.

  • aLICE GREENE says:

    The word “wonder” is such a affirming and joyous way to approach the unknown, even more so than the terms “letting go”, “being”, “trusting”, “allowing” or “having faith”. It changes your whole perspective, and it brings you more into the moment with an expectant smile on your face. I am going to use this word a lot more in my thinking. Great insight and great column Gail.

    • Gail says:

      Alice: Being a coach who carefully selects the right words to help clients create shifts, I am so happy to hear that today’s blog post is one that inspires you in further acquiring a positive perspective as well. Thanks for taking the time to acknowledge my work during this busy time in your life. You have inspired me in many ways, too. Gail

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