Taking a leap

“We must walk consciously only part way toward our goal, and leap in the dark to our success.”

~ Henry David Thoreau

 

We all have taken a major leap this past year—a leap into the unknown through the uncertainties of the pandemic.

Yet, it is in the unknown, that space between old ways of being and the new, where lasting transformation occurs.

We all need an empty or quiet space in which to create anew. Without that gap time, we end up repeating the past.  Look at divorce statistics, for example: There is a higher rate of divorce for second and third marriages than for first marriages that end. (Fortunately the number of first marriages ending in divorce is declining, hovering around 39 percent versus 50 percent several years ago.)

The more accepting we become with the discomfort of the unknown, and make friends with it, the more likely we gain insights to create new and more positive outcomes for our lives.

Then, we must take inspired actions. Procrastinating, or focusing only on wishful thinking and prayer, keeps us stuck.

There are several reasons we hold ourselves back.  Here are some of them:

  1. Fear of success.
  2. Fear of failure.
  3. Fear of feeling like an imposter (Am I really “good enough” or “worthy”?).
  4. Fear of feeling shame (of past failures).
  5. Fear of making mistakes and feeling humiliated.
  6. Fear of disappointing yourself.
  7. Fear of being alone (i.e., a belief that “It’s lonely at the top.”)
  8. Fear of rejection.

To help clients take a new leap, I guide them in releasing these fears. Most importantly, I help them create a sense of safety within themselves as they embrace their new, more expansive identity.

Becoming visible in new ways opens us to both praise and criticism. Staying centered within, to our own power, is essential regardless of the feedback.

I also recommend we each have a team who CHAMPIONS us. Ideally, this inner circle sees, hears, values, and acknowledges us, in all the loving ways we also must learn to do for ourselves (that is part of the inner work to embrace in ‘the unknown’).

Know this: As we expand, some people will not accompany us on the journey. Our courage to take a risk sometimes threatens those who do not want to leave their comfort zones. Others simply cannot appreciate the upgraded or fuller expression we present. Rather, they may continue seeing us as living in former ways of being or interacting, not recognizing the inner growth we achieved.

Yet, our commitment to living our greatest lives cannot be contingent on what others think.  The past is gone. The “now” is our moment of creation. The right people aligned with our values and dreams will show up.

I love these inspiring words of Belgian painter, Erik Pevernagie: When we feel we have benched ourselves for too long, we must loosen up the unessential, get over our endless cringing and make a bold leap to the glowing stars of our dream.”

Last week, prompted to share more about my new coaching platform and worthiness mission, I took one of my own big leaps. I gave my first national radio interview at “In-depth with Larry Flick” on SiriusXM, speaking publicly, with great vulnerability, about my own worthiness journey.

I spent many creative months in the unknown, often in solitude, over the past eight years healing and inwardly preparing to deliver this message. Listen here.

With courage and excitement,

Gail

I was so inspired to share this photo of the dancing girl, leaping, taken by Judy Miller, my talented photographer friend. Judy captured the image at The Ewing and Muriel Kauffman Memorial Garden in Kansas City.  

 

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  • Marta Tracy says:

    A most wonderful post. Great interview with Larry Flick on Sirus XM.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Marta: It was so much fun to engage with Larry–such an intelligent man of depth who risked sharing his own vulnerabilities to help his listeners understand my worthiness message. And, he bravely let me coach him LIVE! That takes courage. Blessings, Gail

  • Lisa May says:

    Thank Gail! It’s a great reminder that taking the path less traveled, into the great unknown, is indeed a choice. Love you and the amazing light your shining!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thank you, Lisa: Hope you got to listen to the radio link at the end–it was a profoundly deep conversation with the host, Larry Flick, and know it would resonate with much of your work too. Blessings, Gail

  • Doug Campbell says:

    “Yet, our commitment to living our greatest lives cannot be contingent on what others think. The past is gone. The ‘now’ is our moment of creation. The right people aligned with our values and dreams will show up.”

    So true!! Just as a lobster sheds its shell, or a snake sheds its skin, we as humans need to shed our limiting beliefs, in order to grow into a new and better version of ourselves!

    Great post! Great insight as always Gail!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Doug: Glad you liked my quote…we must CLAIM the new, and stay disciplined moment by moment, not go back to the past, and be brave through discomfort. It takes vigilance to shed limiting beliefs. It’s worth the effort…Blessings, Gail

  • Maria Tropp says:

    I found this comment from Gail’s blog absolutely profound: “Becoming visible in new ways opens us to both praise and criticism. Staying centered within, to our own power, is essential regardless of the feedback.” And, it shed a light for me why I can honestly say that I can put my initials next to every single fear in Gail’s blog. I completely agree with Gail that a strong inner circle provides a sound foundation for success!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Maria: Thanks for your transparency, and also for noticing the fears you ARE and WILL CONTINUE to overcome. You have so many gifts and talents, and you are also building new circles of support. Blessings, Gail

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