Tapping into love

“You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success—none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.”

~ Ram Dass

The month of love is upon us as Valentine’s Day is soon celebrated around the world—and with it comes all sorts of expectations.

Some embrace it as a great romantic event, while others see it as a commercial opportunity to sell cards, flowers, candy and other gifts.

The highs and lows of celebrating love this month can vary depending on whether we are single or coupled, or even where we live.

Did you know in Finland and Estonia, for example, Feb. 14th is called “Friends Day”? Friends, significant others, and even neighbors are honored with cards and gifts. Additionally, Estonia has a tradition for single people, where they can take a ride on “The Love Bus” in hopes of meeting someone special, according to World Strides.

There is one huge expectation around love, however, that triggers many of us even more this month. And, it can keep us feeling stuck, alone, or unhappy. That expectation is believing someone else will give us the love we first need to find within.


The process of claiming our worthiness of that innate love is a journey of compassion, acceptance, being witnessed with care, and forgiveness. And, most importantly, for many of us, healing requires acknowledging we did nothing wrong not knowing of our lovability.

The roadblocks to love are limiting subconscious beliefs from our early life conditioning or later traumas. Three key “stories” that live within some years beyond when they happened are: shame, betrayal, and/or abandonment.

We often do not realize we still carry some of these earlier life emotional wounds. Instead, we project these unresolved pains onto others. Or, we become extraordinarily protective of ourselves to the point we guard our hearts so much we push others away.

Personally, and professionally with my clients, I have used several tools to release these wounds from the body. It is not enough to psychologically understand them. YOU MUST FEEL THEM TO RELEASE THEM.

My favorite tool is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), an energy psychology approach that addresses the root causes of distress or blocks. By tapping on key meridian points in the body, while releasing past trauma or hurts, a calming signal is sent from the body to the brain.

My clients often receive breakthroughs in a few EFT sessions that may have taken years before to achieve with more traditional healing approaches.

The key to using is EFT in an accelerated way is the type of SPECIFIC set-up statements used for the releases. Intuitively, I often find the right words very quickly that create more immediate shifts, based on my 30-plus years as a writer and journalist.


FROM Dr. Mark Hyman, a New York Times best-selling author 12 times, and considered one of the most trusted names in Functional Medicine:

“There are three things that are critical for healing– It’s what you eat, moving your body, and learning how to reset your nervous system.”  And what does he recommend for resetting your nervous system? TAPPING. “Tapping is one of the most directed and powerful ways to peel those layers away of chronic stress. It’s very effective for very difficult problems,” says Dr. Hyman says.

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FROM Dr. David Feinstein, a clinical psychologist and internationally recognized leader in the rapidly emerging field of Energy Psychology. His scientific papers have provided a foundation for understanding how it is possible to quickly and non-invasively alter brain chemistry for therapeutic gain:

“We live in a challenging world right now and having the ability to manage our emotions so we’re more effective in the world, more powerful in our ability to reach our on highest goals and highest aspirations…This is BIG.  This is what energy psychology and EFT are all about…It’s reassuring to know you’re betting on the right horse using EFT…You can change long-standing psychological patterns with energy psychology and tapping. It’s so empowering we’d like children to have it.”


I am offering a special Valentine’s Day 90-minute private coaching session using EFT to release love blocks, for $199. I also will be sharing in that session my customized list of 10 empowering words, specific to creating more love, to help rewire the brain for attracting or deepening “right” relationships.

This offer is valid through the end of February. Email gailjones@claimyourworthiness.com to learn more or to schedule a session.

Valentines Special

(And for those who were interested in my LOVE BOARD ZOOM GROUP COACHING, I have postponed that session this month. Many are still working on their vision boards based on my Jan. 17th Group Coaching Session. Others shared they would prefer to do this particular segment of releasing love blocks privately with me, versus as in a group.)

To further help us stay on track with loving ourselves this month, no matter what our past has been or what our current circumstances are, I am thrilled to offer these other resources:

  1. Listen to Linda Salazar’s “Honoring Your Love Imprint” episode of my CLAIM YOUR WORTHINESS PODCAST that aired Feb. 2nd. Be sure to stay through the end to learn of her unique tool. Here is a recording of it, complete with show notes: https://share.transistor.fm/s/43c7f1ce.
  2. On this Tuesday, February 9th, Dr. Gary Salyer, another relationship expert, will be sharing his unique insights for “Building SECURE Love.”  You can listen here or subscribe to CLAIM YOUR WORTHINESS PODCAST via your favorite channel.
  3. EXTRA BONUS: This Valentine’s Day, whether alone or with a cherished love one, take time to read and sit with this beautiful piece by Ram Dass, the renowned spiritual teacher, psychologist and author who I quoted at the beginning of this post: https://www.ramdass.org/being-love/.

With love, appreciation and an expanded heart,


P.S.  Please follow me on FB or Instagram at Coach Gail Jones to catch updates in between my twice monthly blog posts.  

Sharon Spector grabbed the above photo of this precious heart rock while strolling Siesta Key Beach in Sarasota, Florida last fall. I love that it shows hands and fingers holding the heart—as we use the fingers to tap and the hands to learn of our love imprint as noted in the podcast with Linda Salazar.

Sharon is a Sarasota, Florida-based photographer who is passionate about the unexpected moments and whimsy in life through bright colors and a joie de vivre. She studied photography at Jeff Bernier’s Photography Studio in Montmartre, Paris.  To see more of her work, email sharingjoy@ymail.com.



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  • Lisa May says:

    Beautiful and impactful, as always Gail! Knowing and FEELING the innate love that resides within us, without the mis-perception that we must earn or prove our value is so powerful. Thank you for your inspired & inspiring messages.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones (“Coach Gail Jones”—Your worthiness expert) says:

      Thank you Lisa…love your emphasis on FEELING the innate love that resides within…it is INDEPENDENT of external circumstances or validation…always there for us, and sometimes most strengthened in our alone times. Glad you find my messages inspiring…Blessings, Gail

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