“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” –Mother Teresa
There is no “giving to get.” It is pure; the person choosing to extend themselves on your behalf has no ulterior motive except to help, perhaps responding to an inner prompting to be of service.
Recently, I was the recipient of such goodwill. A woman professional listened to my dilemma and gave her high level professional advice without charging a fee, or attaching any expectations to our conversation.
I sensed a genuine kindness of one woman truly wanting to help another, no strings attached. From this experience and other observations, I have seen increasingly that generosity has little to do with income or standard of living, but more with how someone values himself or herself and others placed before them.
Sometimes, if we truly “hear” another beneath the story they are telling us (or themselves), we can choose to respond with compassionate giving. Those types of compassionate choices take some discernment, a moment of pause, to choose to truly “be” with another person, without asking for something in return.
I am starting to see in such circumstances there is a sort of karmic exchange, reminiscent of that old saying of “what goes around, comes around.” Or, put another way, help others in their time of need, and you will be helped. The surprise is the person who “pays it back” to you may not be anyone you expected.
In my case, it was a complete stranger, who listened with care, concern and kindly, without judgment, expertly shared her wisdom and valuable expertise. Grateful for the exchange, I am reminded to find a way to pay it forward by serving another with equal dignity in their time of need.
Love is an act of service and we thrive by both giving and receiving it.
Beth Shedd’s photo of the child cradling the bunny represents the gentleness of giving to others without the need for reciprocation.
SUPPORT MATTERS’ BELIEF TIP OF THE WEEK:
1. I allow myself to generously and lovingly extend myself on the behalf of another.
2. I allow myself to listen with compassion to the needs of another, without judgment.
3. I allow the grace of silence –by taking a moment to pause—to guide me with discernment in how to respond to others placed before me.
Gail Kauranen Jones is an intuitive coach, gifted wordsmith and inspiring teacher who has been leading others through transformation for more than twenty years. She is the author of two books, Cancer as a Love Story: Developing the Mindset for Living, and To Hell and Back…Healing Your Way through Transition. Both books were met with rave reviews on Amazon and elsewhere.
She recently appeared as a guest “worthiness coach” on CBS TV’s award-winning talk show The Doctors and on Sirius FM Radio. Her articles and “tips” on worthiness have also appeared several times in Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper.
She has taught many leading-edge workshops at top spas and wellness centers. She now leads Zoom group coaching programs and is a guest speaker at many related events.
Gail lives a passionate and simple life writing, hiking, connecting in meaningful ways, aligning in joyful collaboration and thriving in nature.