The Strength of Asking For Help


“He is who is afraid of asking is ashamed of learning.” –Danish proverb

In our journeys towards independence, self-actualization and fulfillment, many of us forgot (or did not learn how) to ask for help.

I find that the times when I feel most stuck in creating anew, I am often trying to do too much on my own, from my own perspective.

When I get out of my own head and engage in the expertise of others, I feel lighter and more expansive, particularly as I intuitively discern which pieces of information are most helpful.

Listening with appreciation and respect, yet also honoring my own feelings of “rightness,” I gain valuable ideas. I also acknowledge more frequently when I resist feedback because it is not “my way”—or the ego insisting only I know best.

If I can allow myself to stay vulnerable, and really hear what is being said even if I do not like the message, I stretch in new ways. (The same loosening up works for intimate relationships—so much is gained when we let go of control and open to what is before us versus what we would prefer to direct.)

We do not have to do success alone, nor must we know all the answers. Our not knowing, in fact, opens us to wonder and even greater possibilities.

If you poll highly successful people, you often will discover that someone along the way mentored them, gave them a break or helped them affiliate with the right person or opportunity.

Right now, to bring about my dream for creating a market niche within my business, I know I need help. More specifically, I need a team to include:

• technical people who can build the systems to deliver in new ways the content I am creating.

• financial people who can guide me in creating a solid business plan or find grant money as a woman-owned business.

• mentors who can keep me on track and inspired to go the next level up.

• friends, and ideally a life partner, who believe in my dream and how it will serve the world in unique ways.

Each week, I set up new informational interviews and conduct more research, creating a part-time commitment to my dream so I do not lose my inspiration to serve in new ways. 

 A client of mine learned to say the following from an acquaintance in Sandler Sales Training: “I really need your help and truly respect and value your opinion. I could use a favor. Could we meet for coffee?” She said by approaching others with respect, and complimenting them on their expertise, she has had numerous people willingly and enthusiastically help her extend her network.

Being curious about and learning from others adds life to our dreams. Feeling supported helps us thrive and stay committed.


1. I allow myself to ask for help in bringing forth my dreams.

2. I allow myself to enjoy hearing another’s expertise, choosing which thoughts most resonate with my needs and intuition.

3. I allow myself to build teams of support around me so I can more easily thrive in success.

Beth Shedd’s photo of the joining of hands symbolically shows the strength we can feel when we reach out for support, which is particularly helpful when ushering in a new dream.


Work one-on-one with Gail clarifying your new dreams, instilling new thoughts, and creating a customized vision board that helps move you forward. For more information, call Gail at 978-887-1911 or email


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  • cynde Denson says:

    Gail’s Blog totally inspired me today to not give up on my vision of expressing my higher self in the world and look for guidance and help when I need it. I too often will let my ego stand in the way so that my “outside” looks together and while my “inside” is churning. Thank you Gail for your beautifully written words of wisdom.

  • Great reminder that we don’t have to do everything alone and can ask for help! Not only do we have other people to assist us, but we also have the energies of Life/the Universe/God ready to enthusiastically partner with us to express our greatest. Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I’ve forgotten this. Thanks for the reminder!

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