Trusting the unpredictable

blog sky and mountain photo“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.”

–Gilda Radner


(Part 2 of a 2-part blog series on “Growing New Edges”)

We never know when or how we will be called to change the path we planned for life.   The rerouting can come in many forms: a career gets halted to take care of an ill parent or child; a spouse suddenly chooses to end a marriage; a health diagnosis demands our full attention and care; or we get laid off from what was seemingly a “secure” job.

At these times, stepping into the unknown and embracing the unfamiliar is often the greatest challenge. Yet, it is by stretching beyond what is familiar that we keeping growing into our fullest expression of ourselves.

Instead of focusing on the challenges of the current circumstance, we can choose to shift our attention towards creation by asking: How am I being called as a person to expand through this? Are there any old beliefs about myself that need to be discarded so I can move forward in greater peace and openness for new possibilities? Is there a new way for me to “be” in the world that is being called forth here?

In last week’s blog, ““Growing new edges,” I described stepping into the unfamiliar literally by physically moving out of my comfort zone while hiking a narrow, curvy trail of the Grand Canyon.

Extending this stretch into other, more emotional areas of life, I like this quote in a recap of day 17 of the 21- day meditation series, “Manifesting True Success,” by Oprah and Deepak Chopra.

Taking Advantage of Unpredictability: 

“Typically we find unpredictability stress-inducing because it forces us to move out of our comfort zones of expectations, beliefs, and hopes. A change in plans from what we hoped for is often felt as a disappointment or failure. But if we can see beyond the apparent randomness of life and recognize that a larger purpose is always being served, then we can relax and welcome unpredictability, and observe how we can redirect our efforts to contribute to the bigger picture that is unfolding.”

Big-picture thinking also requires trusting more deeply in ourselves and aligning with knowing that we are always supported by a loving, powerful Universe or grace. Growth, while sometimes painful and scary, is a gift of our aliveness and inter-connectedness.

In our humbling experiences, we learn once again that we are never alone. The level of support we need always will appear if we stay open and let it in–especially when we bravely accept the unpredictability of the unknown.

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In trust,



1. I allow myself to look for flow, even in unpredictability.

2. I allow myself to reframe the unknown as a gift of aliveness and creation.

3. I allow myself to welcome being redirected.

4.  I allow myself to let go of trying to control all outcomes, trusting my inner guidance will lead me forth as needed.


Focusing on the vastness of the sky and mountains in Scottsdale, as shown in my IPhone pictures above, is one way I stay open to the expansion of new possibilities no matter what my challenge.


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  • elena jespersen says:

    Hi Gail,
    I am so glad you are enjoying Scottsdale. I have a good friend who lives there. The summers are brutal. Everyone flees. Valynda is a Reiki master I met in Brazil with John of God. She is doing network marketing with a company called it works. They have great products, i am using many of them. I will likely not be out often any more as my son has graduated from the ASU sculpture program . I still really enjoy your writing. Love Elena

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Hi Elena: Of course anyone from Boston would love Scottsdale THIS winter. I am grateful I have had so much time outside in nature, experimenting with a new lifestyle again after becoming an empty nester. The expansiveness of the skies here is just incredible. I’ve been forewarned about the summers and the days when I have to hunker down in air conditioning and get up at 5 a.m. to walk before the heat. In an ideal world, one would have two homes, one by the ocean in summer, and one here…perhaps that’s a new dream:). Glad you’ve enjoyed my writing…Congrats on your son’s graduation. Love, Gail

  • Kim says:

    Beautifully written and so true! Not so easy to follow sometimes.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Kim: Yes, developing that trust muscle in great times of unknown can be challenging. Yet, in truth, every moment is a new beginning. We just have to learn to celebrate the not-so-comfortable ones that often open us in new ways. Love, Gail

  • Alison says:

    This is beautifully written and a great reminder. When I sit back and think of the moments in my life that were unpredictable, I can see the blessings that appeared. Moving to Tallahassee, FL to attend FSU, I first went into culture shock as the northern part of FL is very different than anywhere I had lived. The feeling was uncomfortable and my first instinct was to get out of there. I slowed down and learned to embrace the new. Little did I know that there in Tallahassee I would have had job opportunities in graphic design and teaching art to children that were vital stepping stones to develop the skills I needed to illustrate my very first children’s book that is now published and sold out on Amazon!

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Alison: Thanks for sharing your journey (and success) through the unpredictable. I am so excited for you and your book’s success. I just checked out the Amazon link ( and excellent reviews of the book. I have never seen a new book reach “temporarily out of stock” so quickly. Your message for children must be very much needed. Coincidentally (in relation to this blog topic), your book can also be relevant to the scary feelings that can come up for adults when faced with the unknown. Learning to feel our feelings, move through them and see new possibilities continues to be a message we need to embrace throughout our lives. Congrats to you, and thanks for sharing your own inspiring story. Love, Gail

  • Deb says:

    Wonderful reminder at exactly the right time! Thanks for sharing your journey and your wisdom. Always uplifting and enlightening.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Deb: Good to know I can help transform thoughts on transition into uplifting experiences for readers:)

  • Ann marie says:

    I found delight in your tips and will utilize as affirmations at this perfect, newness.
    Hugs and love,
    Ann Marie

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Wishing you much joy in the newness you’re embracing, Ann Marie…I can see you laughing now. Miss you! Love, Gail

  • Susan says:

    Love this post. I always enjoy your belief tips too.

    • Gail Kauranen Jones says:

      Thanks, Susan. I appreciate learning from readers what they find the most helpful. It was so nice to hear from, too. Long time no see. I’ll be back in Boston in June for a visit…hope we can catch up with our amazing group of “lifers.”

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