Up, up, up we go. Who is on your floor?

2nd elevator photo


“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.  When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate.  Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are designing purpose-filled lives.  Similarly be that kind of a friend.”

–Mark Twain

Sometimes, especially when we are in a major life transition or growth spurt, the people in our lives change.  We might, for example, need to let go of those who are negative to make room for those who are more positive.

Like when an elevator is operating between floors and it is not quite your time to get off, there is often a waiting period for new people to arrive who are aligned with the newly evolved you.   For many, that waiting period can be a solitary time of deep inner growth.

Then one day you discover, like me and many of my clients have, that you are ready to leave the cocoon of re-creation, step out onto a new floor and suddenly there is a slew of new people before you.

The new elevator level has become for me a time for great discernment in carefully choosing who will be a part of my life going forward, as described in this Forbes article.

As a mark of transformation, it also can be intriguing to observe the new players who arrive.  Those placed before us are a reflection of some part of us–or our inner state of mind.

People we admire often have attributes that we may want to develop or enrich within ourselves.  Even those who trigger us in negative ways are mirroring back some part of our being, whether it be a wound from the past or a weakness we may dislike to own.

Yet, as we do the inner work to raise our self-esteem and state of consciousness, we begin attracting a different caliber person–or deepen our appreciation for and connections with those who already are in alignment with our values, goals and aspirations.

I love all the intelligent, warm, kind, fun, soulful, healthy and generous people parading before me these days and cherish the friends and associates who waited patiently while I took on another inner growth challenge.

For as the wise author Alan Cohen, who encourages people to “settle up” says:  “People who pressure you usually deserve a ‘no.’ People who are patient with you usually deserve a ‘yes.’

Looking forward to adding a few more “Yeses” to my life this year in Newburyport and beyond.



1.  I allow myself to be discerning in choosing with whom to surround myself.

2.  I allow myself to risk going the next level up, accepting my soul’s prompting to grow.

3.  I allow myself to be in joy with others, sharing in the mutual gifts of love, respect and friendship.


Beth Shedd’s cartoon metaphorically represents our life’s ideal ‘elevator panel of support’… with those who we choose to surround ourselves always guiding us UPward into our best selves.  Beth loves capturing images that cleverly mirror the life-enhancing messages that Gail writes.









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  • Palmbeach says:

    Loved your post. Push past the naysayer, dare greatly…and your reach will exceed your grasp. You go girl 🙂

    “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
    Theodore Roosevelt, “Man in the Arena” Speech given April 23, 1910

    • Gail says:

      Love that line “dare greatly…and your reach will exceed your grasp.” Thanks for your encouragement and sharing the powerful quote by Theodore Roosevelt…very inspiring. Gail

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